Create A Great Funeral Day 2020 is on Friday, October 30, 2020: Going to a funeral in Japan?
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From personal experience, I have only been to half of a funeral. I didn't attend the actual cremation, but I was told about it by other people. Wikipedia is a great source for the basic rituals, but there are some things that are left out.
1. Japanese funerals are the same as Western funerals in respect to the clothes worn. Black and maybe pearls. Stockings should also be fine. Either skin coloured or black. Obviously no bright colours or anything flashy. The same would go for make-up.
2. Your husband should know what to bring. You will probably have to bring an envelop with money inside. I'm not sure of how much, but it should be the black and silver one. If you have ever been to a wedding and given money, it's the same thing. The major difference is the colours and how the envelop is folded. It should be the opposite of a wedding card.
3. I never had to give anything to anyone. Money is the only thing. Just remember to bow a lot.
4. I never said anything at the funeral. Then again, it is my better half's grandmother.
5. Be prepared for several things. I went without knowing much. First, the wake itself is usually held in the person's house. My better half's grandmother was lying in a coffin in the middle of her living room. There was a window in the casket so that you could see her. There was black incense and a bell next to the temporary home alter. You'd generally kneel, grab a small black incense stick, light it with a candle (it should be there) and place it in the pot. Ring the bell, say a quick prayer and you're done. My advice is to let your husband go first and just copy him.
The second part is the transportation of the body to the funeral home. The hearse will come and the body will be taken out. A relative must always be with the body, and they must be awake. As the hearse heads to the funeral home, the neighbourhood will come and pay their respects at the same time. A special horn is blown from the hearse and it leaves, usually with one relative inside. You will then make your way to the funeral home.
The funeral itself is split into two parts, I believe. After the wake is finished and the body is at the funeral home, they wait for the arranged time for the funeral of that day. The priest will say prayers, and he will also ring a bell. It can be boring at this point as it's hard to understand. At one point, you will see everyone head to the "altar". There should be several hot plates where you will put some cedar shavings onto the hot plate and the shavings will burn creating a nice smell. It is a type of offering, I think. You might have to be part of the first group as it might be your husband's father. Just watch the others as they do it and keep up with them. You can also take your time. Afterwards, the immediate family will remain standing on the sides and everyone else will do the same and bow towards the family as they return to their seats. Once this is done, I believe a few more prayers are said and then things are finished for the day. When you leave, your husband may actually stay at the funeral home all night. Usually the children of the deceased and other immediate family spend the night. They will just drink a little, eat, and talk, as far as I know. The rest of the family will return home to sleep and return the next day. There may also be a small lunch service or snack service during which time there will be small finger foods to eat and some juice. They also had beer when I went.
From the funeral/cremation date, I have no idea as to what events happen, but I do have second hand knowledge. It should be very similar to the funeral service of the first day. You will probably go, have a quick prayer, and then witness the body being slid into the furnace. From here, you'll probably have lunch/snack while you wait. Once they have finished cremating, you will return to the furnace to help place the ashes, actually it's bone fragments, into the urn. I believe it's two people at a time. You will either carry one piece of bone together with two sets of chopsticks, or one will pick a piece up and transfer it to another person who will put it into the urn. A friend of mine said the bone fragments will be larger than you expect. I'd guess it would be the size of a small pencil you'd find in Ikea or something like that. Afterwards, you'd head to the grave where they will put the ashes in.
About one week later, you will return to the grave to wash it and give an offering. This is a custom that isn't celebrated as often as families used to do. Now many families will pay a caretaker to do this. This is especially true of those families who live very far from their hometown.
Either way, I hope your father in-law will get better, but from the sounds of things, probably not. Hope you find my information helpful in anyway. Also note that things can change from funeral to funeral, but a friend of mine also
what random holidays are on june 11th and november 30th?
Eat What You Want Day
Fibromyalgia Awareness Day
*Create A Great Funeral Day
*Haunted Refrigerator Night
International Bandanna Day
*National Candy Corn Day
Themes found in The Great Gatsby that revolve around events in the story?
The fact that many people come to Gatsby's parties and no one to his funeral relates to the theme of the death of the American dream and to the money-can't-buy-happiness theme.
The American Dream is the idea that you can make anything of yourself that you want - you can come from nothing and make your own fortune and essentially create a happy ending for yourself. That clearly isn't true in Gatsby's case. He builds himself a fortune in order to be accepted by the upper-crust society that Daisy is a part of, but at the end of the day he will always be "new money" to them as compared to their established aristocracy. He never really fit in, and this is exemplified when no one attends his funeral.
It also ties into the money-can't-buy-happiness theme. Gatsby earns his fortune and buys a big mansion and throws lavish parties in order to win Daisy back because he thinks that having a fortune will make him and her equals of the same class level. He also uses his money to buy himself friends - all of the people who come to his parties and swim in his pool and drink his alcohol and take advantage of him. But when Gatsby dies, the money and all that goes with it dries up, and when those "friends" have nothing left to gain, they clearly reveal themselves to have never been his friends at all. So money clearly failed to provide him with the things he wanted most - Daisy, acceptance, and friendship.
His friendless funeral is essentially the culmination of the story - he spent the entire novel struggling to attain an American Dream that was really an illusion, and trying to use money to buy things that really aren't for sale, and those struggles essentially lead to his dying alone, with no one but Nick to care - his sole friend, and the only one who never cared about Gatsy's money or social status.