Positive Attitude Month on October, 2019: how to develop positive attitude?
October, 2019 is Positive Attitude Month 2019. Action Tips on Love Send someone an email telling
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Is it a focus/concentration issue you're trying to conquer? Or motivating positive attitue you are trying to acheive?
Either way, my one word answer for you is Choices. You can make the choice to be positive or negative, you can make a choice and me mean or nice, you can make the choice where you live or die.
I hate to say it, it really is all about choices. I read this motivating story/poem a long time ago and everything clicked. Being positive is something you can easily adapt to and have everything to gain from, all you have to be is aware of what you are saying, doing, etc. Take a minute if you drift off into space and lose focus, or if you start to be negative, condescending, mean, etc.; bring yourself back and make the choice and act on it. You'll notice those around you will see the difference slowly. It truly works if you take the time to think about it before you say it, make a choice of what to say or do. Don't wasite time in life being negative, you really have nothing to gain from that but more people to look down upon you.
Here's that poem. I remember this poem and refer to it often with ALL my students. My one word motto for my life...............
John is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!"
He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, John was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation. Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up and asked him, "I don't get it! You can't be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?" He replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or ... you can choose to be in a bad mood. I choose to be in a good mood." Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or...I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it.
Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or... I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life. "Yeah, right, it's not that easy," I protested. "Yes, it is," he said. "Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood.
The bottom line: It's your choice how you live your life." I reflected on what he said. Soon hereafter, I left the Tower Industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.
Several years later, I heard that he was involved in a serious accident, falling some 60 feet from a communications tower. After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, he was released from the hospital with rods placed in his back.
I saw him about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins...Wanna see my scars?" I declined to see his wounds, but I did ask him what had gone through his mind as the accident took place. "The first thing that went through my mind was the well-being of my soon-to-be born daughter," he replied. "Then, as I lay on the ground, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or...I could choose to die. I chose to live." "Weren't you scared? Did you lose consciousness?" I asked. He continued, "..the paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the ER and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read 'he's a dead man'. I knew I needed to take action." "What did you do?" I asked. "Well, there was a big burly nurse shouting questions at me," said John. "She asked if I was allergic to anything. 'Yes, I replied.' The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, 'Gravity'." Over their laughter, I told them, "I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead." He lived, thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude... I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully. Attitude, after all, is everything. Therefore, do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. After all today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday.
I am a Mom of 4 who stays home- I feel your pain! lol. It is often discouraging and exhausting and many other things being home all day and night with no adult conversation. Try getting out of the house. A walk at the local park would get you some fresh air. Exercise always makes me feel less tired and you are bound to meet other moms- not to mention wearing those little ones out so you can all have a nap or an early bedtime. There are plenty of days the dishes don't get done or you can't even manage to get a shower until the husband gets home. Don't forget you are an adult and a woman. People don't realize being a stay at home mom is a 24 hr job, you can't call in or take off. If it's 5:30 and the baby has a poopy diaper you can't say -oh, it's after five I am off work. You have to make some time for yourself. How about a local YMCA- they have gyms and daycare available- they also will help with membership fees if you need it. Try to sneak in a bubble bath or an hour away when your husband gets home. I am sure you are a great mom- if you are staying at home all day instead of working when you don't have to you are obviously devoted to your children. Things will get better. Good Luck
How do you maintain a positive attitude while being unemployed?
It is really tough to stay positive but I also know there are others out there that have been at it longer than me. When I go to job fairs, unemployment, etc. I speak to others about their situation and find I am not alone. What I have found is that as I have broadened my search I am getting more interest from places I hadn't considered before. I have interviewed with some of those and could have taken a job but decided I could wait a little longer and hopefully the economy will pick up and more hiring will happen. One other thing I have done is schedule my day with specific tasks and times on my calendar. So I run my day like a business. Certain amount of time/ time of day for research, emails, calls, networking, meetings, lunch/exercise (where I get a chance to think outside the box), practice my interview skill responses, and self improvement. At the end of the day I am tired and know I have put in my best and feel positive. I also take the time to read up on new businesses. I have picked up a few short consulting projects here. Since you are a legal secretary you may be able to offer some services as a consultant and get paid? This is also a way into a company. My previous position can through this path. I hope this helps and wish you all the best in your job search. I know it is tough but I know you will succeed if you stay positive. Good luck