Stand For Children Day 2018 is on Friday, June 1, 2018: What do you think are the Pros and Cons of having a child in Day Care?
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Pros: your child will be able to learn and interact with other children and it prepares them for pre-school or kinder garden.
Cons: (If you work a 9-5 job) someone else will be raising your child and disciplining them, probably in ways you don't approve of. You are away from your child for a long period of times. Your child may pick up other bad kid's habits. If your child is still an infant...then your child might end up calling his/her caregiver "mommy". I've seen it happen before. Other kids may have bad hygiene and pass it on to your child (i.e. head lice).
UPSIDE of Daycare:
Always more than one person available to watch, care for, supervise, and feed your child
Interaction with other children
Develop social skills at an early age
Kid's days are pretty much scheduled, routine, and consistent
Daycare centers don't call in sick
Kids receive a lot of mental stimulation
Your house stays neater (although my son can make a mess in minutes)
The kids enjoy the change of scenery and toys
Cost is less than for a nanny
English-as-second-language kids have more exposure to English
DOWNSIDE of Daycare:
Nighttime baths vs. possibly every other day
Laying out their clothes
Packing nutritious lunches vs. fast food snacks
Morning rush to get out of the house on time
Allow extra time to make the stop and drop-off
Your child screaming, "Mommy don't go!!"
The guilt and bad feelings because you're leaving them behind
Less one-on-one attention from caregivers
Potential personality conflicts at the center between parents and staff
Potential personality conflicts between the children
Ethics taught are the centers or the caregiver
Values taught are the centers or the caregiver
Possibly no ethics or values taught at all
Political influences are those at the center/school
Less bonding between parent and child
Child learns early on that you won't be there for them when they need you
You don't get to see and experience all the "firsts" that your child goes through
You can NEVER recapture those things you miss
When your child has a boo-boo you're not there to make it better
When your child is excited about what she/he has learned, you're not there at the moment they want to share it with you
When they're not feeling well you leave them to someone else to care for them
When they're sick no one will baby them like you will
More exposure to health issues: ringworm, lice, and colds/flues
You're not there to kiss away their tears
You're not there to waylay their fears
You're not there to set their wild ideas back on track
No opportunity to have a spontaneous day
No time to do "nothing at all" together
To experience the joy of holding and watching your child sleep for hours (hopefully)
You're not there to teach them to climb a tree
To explore the bugs and insects
To plant a seed and watch it grow
Playing "what do you see in the clouds"
Less time to go to the beach, woods, hiking, swimming, biking, skating, etc.
No time to just "play"
To be your kid's playmate
To experience getting to be a kid all over again with your child
Seeing and experiencing life through the eyes of your child
No time to make pancakes in the morning
No time to bake real cookies
Not there to put a band aid on the invisible oweee
Not get to see your child's imagination develop
Not get to see their personal development as much as you could
Don't get to see them beaming with pride at their BIG accomplishments
Infants and toddlers spending 6-8-10 hours a day away from Mom or Dad
The cost of daycare is an added expense: financial and emotional
(Copied and pasted the pro's and con's and attached the link below)
why are parents stupid these days?
I ask myself the same question every day.
I'm a grandmother. I see kids like this every day.
These days parents don't seem to teach manners at a young age. Give children everything they want - when they want. By the time they get to be teenagers - they feel self-entitled and think they are the center of the universe. And of course, kids have the upper hand as parents don't dare smack them any more. My opinion is raising a child has to start from day one with teaching appropriate behavior, manners, morals and values.
Although I don't judge all kids on how they look. Example: I use a cane. I got on a bus that was full to go to work. A young man - complete with purple spiked hair, several piercings, the clothes they wear these days was the very first to jump up and insist I take his seat. I wasn't expecting that and it was nice.
Another example is my own grandson. I went to his Navy boot camp graduation. After - everyone takes their sailor to lunch. We parked next to another car with family and new graduate. My grandson got out of the back seat and came and opened my door and gave me his hand to help me out. The other car's driver - either the father or grandfather said to my grandson "Well, boy, did they teach you that in boot camp?". My grandson stood tall and said "No, sir. I've always been respectful of my grandmother". And it's true - he has. Because he was raised that way. Because I raised his father that way. My twin grandsons who are a bit younger are the same way. They are respectful, helpful and kind. Again, I raised their father that way and he is raising his boys that way.
Until parents gain back some control - these kinds of kids are in for a big reality slap as the world does not consider them the center of the universe and will not allow this kind of behavior as they get older. Parents seem afraid these days to say no. To not provide every last thing kid wants - expensive phones, laptops, cars and whatever without having kid do anything productive. Just breathing is not a good reason.
So I'm not judging you. I applaud you. Keep it up. Be the standard everyone should be.
What, according to you, is the most important lesson children teach their elders?
I have a story, Sorry a bit long, but really answers this question.
Teddy and her teacher - A Glimpse of Divine Love ! .
As she stood in front of her 5th grade class on the very first day of school, she told the children an untruth.
Like most teachers, she looked at her students and said that she loved them all the same. However, that was impossible, because there in the front row, slumped in his seat, was a little boy named Teddy Stoddard.
Mrs.Thompson had watched Teddy the year before and noticed that he did not play well with the other children, that his clothes were messy and that he constantly needed a bath. In addition, Teddy could be unpleasant.
It got to the point where Mrs. Thompson would actually take delight in marking his papers with a broad red pen, making bold X's and then putting a big "F" at the top of his papers.
At the school where Mrs. Thompson taught, she was required to review each child's past records and she put Teddy's off until last. However, when she reviewed his file, she was in for a surprise.
Teddy's first grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is a bright child with a ready laugh. He does his work neatly and has good manners... He is a joy to be around.."
His second grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is an excellent student, well liked by his classmates, but he is troubled because his mother has a terminal illness and life at home must be a struggle."
His third grade teacher wrote, "His mother's death has been hard on him. He tries to do his best, but his father doesn't show much interest, and his home life will soon affect him if some steps aren't taken."
Teddy's fourth grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is withdrawn and doesn't show much interest in school. He doesn't have many friends and he sometimes sleeps in class."
By now, Mrs. Thompson realized the problem and she was ashamed of herself. She felt even worse when her students brought her Christmas presents, wrapped in beautiful ribbons and bright paper, except for Teddy's.
His present was clumsily wrapped in the heavy, brown paper that he got from a grocery bag. Mrs. Thompson took pains to open it in the middle of the other presents. Some of the children started to laugh when she found a rhinestone bracelet with some of the stones missing, and a bottle that was one-quarter full of perfume . But she stifled the children's laughter when she exclaimed how pretty the bracelet was, putting it on, and dabbing some of the perfume on he r wrist. Teddy Stoddard stayed after school that day just long enough to say, "Mrs. Thompson, today you smelled just like my Mom used to."
After the children left, she cried for at least an hour. On that very day, she quit teaching reading, writing and arithmetic. Instead, she began to teach children. Mrs. Thompson paid particular attention to Teddy.
As she worked with him, his mind seemed to come alive. The more she encouraged him, the faster he responded. By the end of the year, Teddy had become one of the smartest children in the class and, despite her lie that she would love all the children the same, Teddy became one of her "teacher's pets.."
A year later, she found a note under her door, from Teddy, telling her that she was the best teacher he ever had in his whole life.
Six years went by before she got another note from Teddy. He then wrote that he had finished high school, third in his class, and she was still the best teacher he ever had in life.
Four years after that, she got another letter, saying that while things had been tough at times, he'd stayed in school, had stuck with it, and would soon graduate from college with the highest of honors. He assured Mrs.
Thompson that she was still the best and favorite teacher he had ever had in his whole life.
Then four more years passed and yet another letter came. This time he explained that after he got his bachelor's degree, he decided to go a little further. The letter explained that she was still the best and favorite teacher he ever had. But now his name was a little longer.... The letter was signed, Theodore F. Stoddard, MD.
The story does not end there. You see, there was yet another letter that spring. Teddy said he had met this girl and was going to be married.
He explained that his father had died a couple of years ago and he was wondering if Mrs. Thompson might agree to sit at the wedding in the place that was usually reserved for the mother of the groom. Of course, Mrs.Thompson did. And guess what? She wore that bracelet, the one with several rhinestones missing. Moreover, she made sure she was wearing the perfume that Teddy remembered his mother wearing on their last Christmas together.