National Women's Check-up Day 2024 is on Tuesday, May 14, 2024: up Day - is this relationship normal? or is he too obsessed?

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You cannot get out of it without hurting him. If you are not willing to do anything else, then read the book, "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin De Becker so you can understand what you are dealing with. If you can read this book without the guy killing you over it.

This relationship shows ALL the signs of a controlling relationship that will escalate to violence and fear of your life or your children's lives. And honestly, are you happy living like this? Do you feel safe? Do you feel loved? Or are you willing to put up with it because you feel secure or because he might get rich then you would be living with a rich guy (until he kills you.) THIS BEHAVIOR ESCALATES to the point where a guy takes shotguns into your workplace and kills your friends. It really happens.

You will have to just get over your parent problems. If you can't explain now, after you get clear, then you can clear it up with them. For the moment, ask them to stay out of it.

A Link to the National Domestic Violence Hotline:

SAFETY ALERT: Computer use can be monitored and is impossible to completely clear. If you are afraid your internet and/or computer usage might be monitored, please use a safer computer, and/or

call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1−800−799−SAFE(7233) or TTY 1−800−787−3224.

What you can do now is find your local women's shelter and talk to someone.

23 WARNING SIGNS OF ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP (www.health-first.org)

Physical or sexual violence may occur without warning. Sometimes, however, there may be signs or "red flags" that serve as warnings that abuse may occur. The following are examples of a person's behavior or personality that may be a warning that a person may be abusive. If you answer yes to one or more of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship or be at risk for it. It is recommended that you speak with a domestic violence advocate.

1. Does your partner tease you in a hurtful way in private or in public?

2. Does your partner call you names such as "stupid" or "bitch"?

3. Does your partner act jealous of your friends, family, or co-workers?

4. Does your partner get angry about clothes you wear or how you style your hair?

5. Does your partner check-up on you by calling, driving by, or getting someone else to?

6. Has your partner gone places with you or sent someone just to "keep an eye on you"?

7. Does your partner insist on knowing who you talk with on the phone?

8. Does your partner blame you for his problems or his bad mood?

9. Does your partner get angry so easily that you feel like you're "walking on eggshells"?

10. Does your partner hit walls, drive dangerously, or do other things to scare you?

11. Does your partner often drink or use drugs?

12. Does your partner insist that you drink or use drugs with him?

13. Have you lost friends or no longer see some of your family because of your partner?

14. Does your partner accuse you of being interested in someone else?

15. Does your partner read your mail, go through your purse, or other personal papers?

16. Does your partner keep money from you, keep you in debt, or have "money secrets?"

17. Has your partner kept you from getting a job, or caused you to lose a job?

18. Has your partner sold your car, made you give up your license, or not repaired your car?

19. Does your partner threaten to hurt you, your children, family, friends, or pets?

20. Does your partner force you to have sex when you do not want to?

21. Does your partner force you to have sex in ways that you do not want to?

22. Does your partner threaten to kill you or himself if you leave?

23. Is your partner like "Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde," acting one way in front of other people and another way when you are alone?