Emotional Intelligence Awareness Month on October, 2022: Could I have some of your opinions or tips about emotionalsocial intelligence?
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Well social wisdom is all in the ability to see things as others do. Empathy. Seek first to understand, then to be understood. You were right on about the criticizim. You have to really care about a person to tell them things they don't want to hear, but that are for their own good. But also keep in mind the older ppl get the more cowardly and lazy they get. Some ppl will just not want to "get into it" with you, or some will fear your anger or hurting your feelings.
But if you are having trouble connecting with ppl it is probably due to a lack of understanding of those ppl. Learn to be completely transparent in your speech. Tell ppl what you are feeling. It will unsettle some, but once ppl see that you are not trying to be an ass they will trust and like you much more.
Why do I cry over everything lately?
The neurons in the human brain are not “fully wired” until the early 20s. Self-control, judgment, emotional regulation, intelligence, consciousness, self-awareness, emotional maturity, and integration of auditory, visual, and tactile signal receptors are in the process of development during the teen years [Cornell University, University of Rochester, & the NYS Center for School Safety. (2002, May). Adolescent Brain Development. ACT for Youth Upstate Center of Excellence. Facts and Findings Research].
In addition, hormones surge during adolescence, while excitatory transmitters peak and inhibitory transmitters are reduced. In other words, there are physical reasons for teenagers to respond emotionally rather than rationally [Duntley, J. D., & Shackelford, T. K. (2008). Evolutionary forensic psychology: Darwinian foundations of crime and law. New York: Oxford University Press.]
Anyone with an extremely high IQ?
Edit: I will give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you are more-or-less telling the truth because you show a tell-tale sign of being young and highly intelligent - a lack of self awareness in how you come across to others, or at least an apathy towards it. :)
OP: "I tried working on it but simply failed to care enough to go through with it (fully)."
2nd Edit: Well, then my first and most important bit of advice is don't give up on working on how you come across! :P It will hurt your ability to suceed. Look at it this way - it's your fault that the answers above and below me are garbage; it's because you didn't ask your question in an intelligent manner. You are coming across as egotistical - like you are trying too hard to show that you are smart and over-inflating your intelligence, so you got some hostile, non-productive answers in response.
A few things to keep in mind that may help you avoid sounding egotistical:
1.) Egotism stems in part from a lack of self-confidence. If you really are highly intelligent, be humbly confident in that fact and don't worry about trying to prove it to others.
2.) You didn't do anything special, nor do you deserve any credit for being intelligent - it's a gift and what you choose to do with it is all that matters.
3.) No one in life outside of possibly your parents will really care about your raw intelligence anyway - what people care about and will respond to is your emotional intelligence. See Tip #2, below.
Raw intelligence will never make you successful and if not properly managed, can do more harm than good. So three quick bits of advice:
1.) Your success depends on how well you manage and apply your strengths in life, not your raw intelligence. That is one of the reasons why there are highly intelligent people who are not successful at all and plenty of extremely successfully people who only have average intelligence. High intelligence tends to amplify both your strengths and your weaknesses. I recommend reading "Now, Discover Your Strengths" by Marcus Buckingham. As his book states - to reach your full potential, you must maximize your strengths while managing around your weaknesses.
2.) Emotional intelligence is equally (or more) important to your success in life. I also recommend reading Daniel Coleman's work, starting with "Emotional Intelligence: Why it can matter more than IQ". His ideas are founded on neuroscience, so being pre-med you should especially enjoy them.
3.) From personal experience, I find that communicating ideas can sometimes be a challenge. My thought process will sometimes make connections that others might not easily make. Since they are natural to me, when I communicate an idea I sometimes take one or more of those connections for granted and skip over it. This can result in others not following your line of thinking clearly. Therefore, when presenting ideas to others it is important to slow down and think through each connection step-by-step, making sure you don't skip any of the steps along the way.
* I am in no way affiliated with either of the authors recommended, just books that I have found very useful.