National Make A Difference to Children Month on July, 2022: November is National Adoption Month and the Child Welfare Department's Slogan is.?
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It's a good thought, but I don't like the phrasing. I would prefer something like, "You don't have to be perfect to be a GOOD parent." Because no parent is perfect, and being perfect isn't the point. Kids should be in a home where their needs are met and they're loved. That's what waiting foster kids need from adoptive homes, love and commitment, not perfection.
That said, I actually do like the sentiment. Too often, adoptive parents are seen as "saintly" or doing some kind of good deed by adopting. The unspoken assumption is that they're somehow better than average, or doing something other people couldn't. While that may be true in some cases of the most severe special needs, across the board in general, parenting is very accessible, and most people can do it well with a little effort.
There are over 150,000 children in foster care who are legally free for adoption and waiting for permanent families. (They're the people the month was designated for, though it has been co-opted by other types of adoption.) These waiting children don't need perfect parents-- they need loving and committed parents. Big difference.
I think it's good to encourage people that they don't have to be saints or martyrs to be able to give a foster child a permanent home. I think it's good to push people to consider adopting a waiting foster kid. It's not for everyone, but many more people could do it than realize they could. I hope this campaign will at least inspire more people to give it some thought.
Air National Guard VS Air National Reserve?
Only you can decide which is a better fit for you as anyone who says one is better than the other is bantering opinions as people in the ANG think they are the best and people in the AFR think they are the best. True picture, we all are good at what we do and same team concept is in place.
Air National Guard:
State and federally controlled
Fullfills worldwide deployments and state emergencies
Units in every state
Air Force Reserve:
Federal control only
Fulfills no state mission
This is about the only large difference is just the roles we fulfill in the our states and world. An AFSC in the AFR is going to be doing the same thing as an AFSC in the ANG or active duty. When I deploy, I work along side Active Duty and AFR people all the time as an ANG guy. Being a single mom, you will have to get a family care plan in place to enlist, but it is possible. You need to have someone look after your child while you are away for BMT/Tech school which can range anywhere from 3-12 months, depends on what job you choose. Good on you for wanting to join, it is a great thing to be a part of. I have truly enjoyed my ANG time and plan to be in a long time. email for more info, be glad to help with any other questions you have.
My 7 month old hates the car seat!!?
What type of seat is she in? Is she still in an infant carrier seat or in a rear facing convertible seat? That would be the first thing I'd change. At 7 months, she no longer needs to be a rigid 45 degree angle recline, but can sit a little more upright, 30-45 degrees. That way she will be able to see more and enjoy the ride a little more. So, if she's in an infant seat, its time to go shopping and check out convertible car seats. Here's the pick of the litteR:
Remember these rules:
1)the BEST seat is the one that fits your child, fits your car, and will be used correctly 100% of the time. (This is why convenience features DO make a difference and ARE worth the money! If its easy to use, you're more likely to use it correctly.
2)Children should stay rear facing AS LNOG AS POSSIBLE!!!! The 20lbs/1 year rule is outdated and provides a bare minimum for turning kids forward facing. The American Academy of Pediatrics and the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration both recommend keeping kids rear facing as long as possible, up to the limits of their seat, preferably until at least 2 years of age. For good reason: A forward-facing child under 2 years old is 5 times more likely to be killed or seriously injured in a crash than a rear-facing child of the same age. A child's vertabrae do not fully fuse until 3-6 years old, before then, she is at great risk for internal decapitation. The spinal column can stretch up to 2 inches in a crash BUT the spinal cord can only stretch up to 1/4 inch before it snaps and baby is gone. In other countries, rear facing 2 - 3 - 4 year olds is standard, they understand that its safer. Here, we turn them as soon as we get to, seeing it as a right of passage thing or something. Ridiculous. All current convertible seats have at least 30lbs rear facing limit.
3)Once you do turn them forward facing, they need to stay in a 5 point harness as long as possible. 4 years/40lbs is the minimum for riding in a booster, and most 4 year olds have no business using one yet. If they can't sit upright for an entire trip, they need the harness of a car seat still. And, even if they do sit properly, a 5 point harness is safer, so you want to keep them in one as long as possible. This is important to consider b/c most car seats only forward face to 40lbs. My son just turned 3, and is in the 95th% for height and weight - 40" tall and weighs 41lbs. He outgrew the 40lbs seats shortly after his 2nd birthday. It was a total waste of money. He now has a Britax Marathon, which goes to 65lbs, and will be able to fit it for some time yet. If I'd have bought it when he was born, I could have had one car seat this whole time instead of the 3 I wasted money on. They are more expensive for many reasons, this is one.
So...knowing all that, here's some about specific seats. Please don't get a Graco Comfort Sport. Car seat techs call it the 'crappysport'. LOL Its a crappy seat that won't last your child very long b/c it has a really short shell. The straps twist all the time, and if they're twisted they won't support your child in a wreck properly. They're hard to install. There's nothing good about these seats except perhaps they're cheap sometimes. Ditto the Safety1st 3-in-1/Cosco Alpha Omega/Eddie Bauer 3-in1 seats. These are all the same company - same seat, just different covers. They stink. Hard to install, b/c of narrow belt paths. Ever tried to wash a skinny cup by hand? Now imagine that skinny cup with pointy edges. That's what putting your hand through these to install them is like. AND they have too short a shell to really go to 40lbs. And that's another misleading thing the box says - 5-100lbs. What the box fails to mention (you don't find out until reading the manual!) is that the harness only goes to 40lbs, NOT 100lbs! After 40lbs it must be used as a booster.And they do not make good boosters. Also, most kids have to use boosters until they're at least 8 years old. Car seats expire 6 years after the date of manufacture, so no matter what they say it is NOT the last seat you'll ever need to buy.
The Britax Marathon/Boulevard/Decathalon (These 3 are the same seat, just different variances of luxury additions, with the Marathon being the cheapest base model) can be found for regular price of $269, and on sale at Albee Baby online for $209-$219. The Marathon a wide open easy to route belt path, which makes using it correctly a lot easier, as do the built in lockoffs, which mean you never again have to use a locking clip. I can get it into 4 different vehicles in under 2 minutes. Because of the way the base is made, it fits in most cars. And, it is worth the money, b/c it lasts usually twice as long as most other car seats (all car seats expire 6 years after the date of manufacture) lasting a baby till they are 5-6 years old, where most at Walmart will only last till 2-4 years old. Rear faces to 33lbs, then forward to 65lbs. and top slots 17inches tall, lasts most kids to ages 5-6 years old.
The Evenflo Triumph Advance (not the original Triumph, make sure it says Advance) is a great seat. $150 version at Babies R Us has padding similar to Britax seats, top slots of 17", harnesses to 35lbs rear facing, and 50lbs forward facing. $120 Walmart version just has little less plush padding. Wide open belt path, easy to install, though it doesn't have built in lockoffs. The harness adjusts at the front of the car seat, you don't have to take the car seat out of the car just to raise/lower the straps. It's one of only 2 seats that does this (The Britax Boulevard is the other, I believE), and it has infinite harness adjustment so the harness always fits perfectly until its outgrown. No more tugging straps to tighten them either. You tighten and loosen the harness using knobs on the side of the seat. As a major bonus, it can be used in a recline position even in forward facing mode. Awesome for kids who still sleep in the car. I LOVE THIS SEAT! LOL My son, who is too big for every other car seat at Walmart has the same amount of room in this as the Britax Marathon.
The Compass Tue Fit, also sold as The First Years True Fit, is a great choice, too. Here's a thread talking all about it: Has 16.5 inch top harness slots, half inch shorter than the Britax Marathon and Evenflo Triumph Advance. Rear faces to 35lbs, forward faces to 65lbs, has built-in lockoffs, and you never have to rethread the harness to change harness height. The headrest is removable to fit better in smaller cars. $179 for the one cover Walmart offers it in, check Babies R Us and other stores for different covers at a little more expensive price.
The Fisher Price Safe Voyage Deluxe Convertible seat is great, it is made by Britax, without all the frills. It's the same shell as a Marathon, but for less than half the price. $130 at Albee Baby online with free shipping, or at their eBay name, babysurplus. Rear faces to 33lbs, forward to 55lbs. Easy to use, fits in most cars. A small word of warning about these seats: they are now officially not making them anymore, so the date of manufacture is getting older and older, with many being delivered that are 6+ months old already. Since car seats expire 6 years after the date of manufacture, this could make a difference to you, especially since its possible your child could fit in the seat for the next 5-6 years.
These are the best you can buy that will give you the most bang for your buck. As a single parent I'm always watching the budget - I have no money to speak of, and these are what I would buy. (My son has a marathon and is soon getting a Britax Regent). They will last the longest. I only wish someone would've told me all this before I had him, I coulda saved some money for the extra seats I started out with!
You can also try distractions, singing to her, making sure she is well fed and burped before putting her into the seat. And she can have soft toys.